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In honor of this month of love, you’ve probably been inundated with messages about dating, romance, sex, and relationships. And all those things are wonderful, of course, but all Valentine’s Day hoopla leaves out one very important matter of the heart: self-love. Of course, this means feeling confident and content with all the amazing things you have to offer the world, but it also means something pretty specific and hugely important -- getting off.    

Let’s get real and talk about the top 10 reasons to thank your orgasm this month. And hopefully, by the end of this article, you'll be inspired to rededicate this month to self-love. 

If your regular MO is to stress about everything and put off pleasure until, well, never, then pay attention. Investing in your own pleasure will do wonders for your wellbeing. Here are my top ten reasons, taken from my book WomanCode, as to why regular orgasms are your prescription for better health: 

  • Improved Fertility: Trying to make a baby? Regular sex boosts your fertility by energizing the hypothalamus gland (which regulates appetite, body temperature, and emotions) and the pituitary gland (which in turn regulates the release of reproductive hormones that induce ovulation and cervical fluid).
  • Natural Detoxification: Sex provides overall lymphatic massage, helping your body’s natural detoxification process to improve digestion and mood.
  • Boosted Healthy Hormones: Orgasms spike levels of nitric oxide and DHEA, a hormone that improves brain function, balances the immune system, helps maintain and repair tissue, and promotes healthy skin.


Thinking all these benefits are mind-blowing but not really sure how to reap the rewards of a great orgasm? Follow this foolproof recipe for cultivating pleasure:

  • Quit the things that drain your adrenals (at least temporarily). That means taking a break from stimulants like caffeine for at least a month and seeing if some added low-to-moderate intensity exercise every day switches off your stress.
  • Take vitamin C with bioflavonoids and ashwagandha every day. These both help heal adrenal tissue and boost adrenal function.
  • Fill your diet with adrenal-nurturing foods. Boost your intake of blue/black foods like sea veggies and dark chocolate and yellow/orange foods like carrots and oranges. These represent water and earth in Chinese medicine -- two important qualities for enhancing energy and libido.

If you’re struggling to get in the mood, or feel like your orgasmic response is diminished, it's important to consider what you can do to get your sexy back. Some root causes to look at include thyroid imbalance, micronutrient deficiency, birth control pills, and problematic periods.

So during this month of love, instead of focusing all of your energy on your partner, put a good amount of your focus on yourself, your response, your desire, the quality of your orgasm, and see how you can expand your own capacity for pleasure. 


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Filed Under: Alisa vitti, Body, Discover, Flo living

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